Thus, Shani (not her real name) began her first day of high school.
"I'm never in my life going to be able to get a matriculation certificate." This was the first sentence she said when she came to me on the first day of high school. Alongside great excitement, the greater fear of failure in the final and the most decisive stage of high school existed. Teachers in her classes set their conditions for success in matriculation, and she, in turn, crouched down in her seat in the classroom. She had trouble digesting all the requirements set before her. Requirements that seemed impossible to fulfill.
"Hello to you, too," I replied. "Let's start with preparing all necessary ingredients for your success."
I preferred to focus on action to somewhat facilitate the deep despair in which Shani found herself at the time.
The first thing we did, was to prepare a binder for each subject that included summaries of all materials taught for matriculation; and we also photocopied some matriculation exams from previous years for practice before the exams.
The second thing was to set a weekly schedule where we recorded Shani's activities during the week. We also allocated time for our own private lesson and for preparing her homework.
The third thing was to set rules for success in matriculation, for example:
A. There is no such thing as "I can't," since everything is already arranged and organized for success and all you have to do is implement it.
B. There is no such thing as not preparing homework. You must determine the most convenient time for you, when you have no other plans, and sit down and prepare all the required tasks.
C. There is no such thing as not preparing summaries before a test, and going over the material by answering questions.
D. There is no such thing as giving up in the middle of studies. You can take short breaks to freshen up, but then immediately go back to studies at the time determined.
E. There is no such thing that I do not learn from the mistakes I made on the exam. I must correct myself anew every time. This is a major step in learning.
The fourth thing was to meet on a weekly basis, and work together on the material being taught in class and on writing complete answers.
The fifth and most important thing was to give Shani perseverance, faith, encouragement and motivation for each lesson, which helped her believe in herself – that she was perfectly capable of succeeding.
Later in the year, Shani felt different. The order, organization and support she received from her surroundings, helped her feel better and understand that high school studies are another step along the way, and success is certainly possible.
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