During personal training, I tell my trainees they are the main actors in their lives, meaning that what they experience is the result of their own actions and thoughts, not those of someone else. Therefore, they are the ones to decide what is good for them, and it is their responsibility for they assume in their lives. Most importantly, society has a place for everyone!!!
The goal of the training course is, of course, to help the child be at its best, to succeed, to connect, to be self-confident, “accepted,” and be a good student who attends class, and so on.
It sometimes occurs that when the child begins to set itself a goal, he tries to become ‘better than.” A socially rejected child may want to set himself up as king of the class and get even with those children who teased him. A poor student may want to see himself as the best student, leaving the others behind.
One of the things we want to teach your child during training is that his success should not be at the expense of someone else, just as someone else’s success should not be at his expense. Moreover, we want to teach the child that thinking disparagingly of others diminishes his own self most of all.
We want to train the child to imagine himself happy and successful, but also see everyone else around him as happy and successful as well. We want to teach him to imagine himself as accepted, and show respect and be friendly with those around him. We want to teach him to see himself as an excellent student, but also to wish continued success to his more successful colleagues.
It is said, “Do not rejoice when thine enemy falls.” In other words, wishing someone else success, and even helping another succeed, is the key to your own success.
At the end of the personal training process, trainees discover they are quite capable of believing in themselves, and their concerns arise in part from other people’s conclusions and beliefs they adopted as their own, but have never examined, or beliefs and conclusions reached in childhood they never tested.
Therefore, I invite the trainees in personal training, to test those beliefs and conclusions, and examine what is really true and what actually serves them and what does not. This re-examination will help them remove somewhat that which hides their true self.